Pop Goes The Cherry!!!

As common social norms are changing, pre-marital sex is on the rise. This is especially true in adolescent relationships. Just look at shows like The OC, One Tree Hill, and even the great old classic- Beverly Hills 90210 which promote sexual intercourse amongst teens. Thus, promoting the idea that sex is a necessary part to a functioning relationship, while imposing the need to have sex as a task. It's started to lose all meaning.

Yes, so, I did it! I "popped my cherry" as a sophmore in high school. While I don't regret it, I don't need to agree with my decision either. The moment was comically tragic as it was followed by my first, inevitable break-up! Yes, mid-deed ladies and gents, he admitted that he was already involved in yet another relationship! Emotionally scarred, the experience was followed by a a string of disastrous relationships and sexual acts in which I often found myself wondering - Is it over yet? Uh, again? Ok, whatever...

It took years for me to understand that my actions then were ideas pressed upon me by outside influences. Several years later I started to understand relationships better, and yet intercourse remained a simple task just like sweeping! See, for men sex is easy - it's a matter of mechanics - see, want, motion, BAM! Women are much more complicated, the easy part is opening you legs, but the true meaning lies in opening your true self to the other person.

Nearly a decade later, and I finally have started to understand. To sense the bond that can connect two people. To see that intimacy is more than just sexual intercourse, it's the desire, need, and actualization of feeling thisclose to someone. It's the moment when two people share their inner most world with each other, and allow themselves to be vulnerable.

I can't help feeling as though pre-marital sex causes a loss in the true majesty of human relations, especially in the case of young adults which are often acting on the fleeting ideas of lust. I know I would never describe love, passion, emotion, and lust as I did in high school!